5 Simple Steps To Help A Lonely Resident

As we move into the holiday season, and the days grow shorter and grayer, many residents may find themselves feeling a bit down an lonely. Here are five simple things you can do to brighten a resident's day and keep the loneliness at bay.

1. Take the resident on an outing.
Something as simple as a trip to a coffee shop, going to see a matinee movie, or taking a short drive in the country can do so much to lift a person's mood. Ask questions and encourage your guest to share stories from his or her life. Be a good listener and you can really make someone's day. If a resident is not able to leave the facility, bring the outing to him or her. Get a take-out treat from a favorite local restaurant, or have a meal wrapped take-out style from your facility's cafeteria. Pick up a red and white checked tablecloth at the discount store to add a festive, picnic element. Brightly colored plates, cups, or utensils add a nice touch, too.

2. Be a friend.
As caregivers, we do the best we can for each of our residents, but some days a resident needs you to go above and beyond. There are those awful days when pain is worse than usual, or they're just feeling blue. Maybe personal issues are getting them down. See if you can free up a few moments in your schedule and sit down and visit with the resident. Let them know that, sure, you have other things you could be doing, but you choose to spend time with them. It could be as simple as chatting about the weather, or as involved as being a sounding board for whatever is worrying or bothering the resident. Think about a time when you were lonely, and how nice it would have been if someone had come along and said "I'm here for you." Schedule a regular visiting time, or give the resident a specific time when you'll be back to visit again. The lonely times go a lot faster if you've got something to look forward to.

3. Help your resident connect with others.
Arthritis and failing eyesight can make it hard for seniors to do things we take for granted, like writing a letter or making a phone call. Help a resident write a letter or email. Is your resident having trouble with a phone or cell phone? Offer to help w/ dialing, or write or type up a list of important phone numbers in large numbers.

4. Small gifts
Bring the resident a small gift like fresh flowers or a small potted plant. A little gesture can both brighten up their room and make their day. But--and this is important--Don't just gift and run. Take a few minutes to visit with the resident. Let them know you were thinking of them and that you genuinely care about them. Then, when they look up and see your gift, they'll remember your visit with a smile, and look forward to the next time you're able to stop by.

5. Make contact
This suggestion takes a little more care and effort than the previous ones. If you can do so without violating HIPPA or your resident's privacy, reach out to others on behalf of the resident, and see if you can arrange for friends or family to visit. Some residents are too proud to ask for help, or too upset or distracted to take the initiative on their own. Ask your facility's SSD to contact the resident's family or friends. Arrange a surprise visit. No family? Drum up a volunteer, pet visit, or something w/ local scouting troop or school. Sometimes it's not so important who is visiting, but that the resident has visitors, period.

Finally, If you have several residents who are dealing with loneliness, try arranging a group activity. A movie night (or ongoing movie club) is a great way to bring people together and get them talking. Invite family members and volunteers, if possible, too. Get the group together and watch a classic movie with an upbeat theme like Singin' in the Rain. Musicals are great because of the lively music and lavish dance scenes! Provide snacks, dim the lights, and let everyone enjoy a movie together. Afterward, lead a discussion about the movie. Encourage everyone to talk about their favorite songs or scenes, or reminisce about other favorite movies and actors from that time period. If the movie had dancing, bring in a volunteer to teach everyone a simple dance based on a song from the movie. Or lead a sing-a-long or karaoke with songs from famous movie musicals.

Sometimes the smallest gestures can have the biggest impact. If you see someone looking down, or who hasn't had visitors in a while, a little attention from you can make a huge difference.

You're a CNA, Now What?

Americans are living longer than any previous generation and the need for long-term and nursing care is growing by leaps and bounds. This is the perfect time to enter a health care career, and achieving Certified Nurse Aide (Assistant) certification is a great start. We've had thousands of students in our Nurse Aide classes. If you really want a competitive edge in the jobs marketplace, though, your best bet is to broaden your skills and make yourself even more appealing to an employer. Many students use the CNA class as a stepping stone to Registered Nurse training, but there are several other options for additional skills.

So, where do you go from CNA?

One good starting point is to train as a Restorative Aide. RAs assist with physical, occupational and speech therapy under the supervision of a specialist. RAs work with individuals recovering from injuries or operations, and are not limited to elder care. Jobs are available in facilities and with outside agencies, so having RA skills can be a great option for people who like to work in a variety of settings. Our Restorative Aide class is offered every month and involves 32 hours of coursework. It's a two week course and it can mean an extra $0.50 an hour (or more!) in your paycheck, according to payscale.com.

Another great option is to train as a Home Health Aide. Not only will this make you more employable, it will greatly increase your employment options. While CNAs generally work in long term care facilities, a CNA with HHA training can work with a Home Health Care agency and have the opportunity to work with clients in their own homes. The current trend is to keep elders in their homes with assisted care rather than moving them into facilities, so demand for qualified Home Health Aides is growing rapidly. As a Home Health Aide, you will help people live comfortably and with dignity in their own homes. HHA is the perfect option for working parents, or people who need flexible hours since you can sometimes schedule home visits around your other commitments. Our Home Health Aide class involves 20 hours of coursework, and is offered quarterly. Is it worth 20-32 hours of your time to boost your earning potential?

Activities for Fall Holidays

Fall is here and that means cooler days, turning leaves, and a long, festive holiday season. Holidays provide many opportunities for long-term care residents and staff to decorate, dress up, and celebrate. The next big holidays are Halloween and Veteran's Day, so here are some ideas you can use in your facilities. 

October 31 - Halloween

Halloween is one of the best holidays for decorating. Almost anything orange, black, or purple will do, and there are countless images and motifs you can use. Children in masks, full moons, pointy witch hats, and grinning jack-o-lanterns. On thing to consider, though--Some people are bothered by the death and monster imagery in some Halloween decorations.

Skip the skeletons and tombstones and play up the fun side of the holiday with colorful, non-threatening decorations. Suggestions include creative jack-o-lanterns, festive candy treats, and "safe" images like black cats and haunted houses. Decorations can be as simple as crepe paper around a window, or as elaborate as transforming a room into a spooky scene.

Pumpkin carving is also a Halloween tradition, and don't forget to save the seeds for roasting! There are several recipes for pumpkin seeds, but two of my favorite are here. The first is for lightly salted seeds, and the other is for a more spicy, savory variation.

If working with real pumpkins is too challenging for some residents, provide them with orange construction paper pumpkins and black or yellow paper to create their spooky faces. You can even cut out some shapes ahead of time and give your crafters a selection to chose from. Pumpkin painting is an easy option, too. The mini pumpkins and gourds you can find at the grocery store are just the right size for everything from a reception desk to a resident's room. You can find several pumpkin carving patterns online, or visit Nursing Home Activity Resource for a long list of halloween recipies and craft ideas.

Since parties are always a big hit, consider scheduling a day when residents, staff and visitors can show off their Halloween costumes. For even more fun, encourage families to bring their children in costume and have them go trick or treating at the resident rooms. Residents could even prepare popcorn balls or cookies beforehand. It's a great activity to bring all generations of residents and visitors together.

November 11th - Veteran's Day

This is the perfect opportunity to celebrate the service of any military servicemen and women in your facilities. Encourage residents to show off their military uniforms, medals, stories and photographs. Ask residents and families to contribute pictures of themselves while they were enlisted and display the pictures on an "Honor Wall" that everyone can see. If your residents have children or grandchildren currently in the service, ask for those pictures, too. Residents can write letters to those currently serving, or assemble care packages. Three great websites are Operation Gratitude, Soldiers Angels, and Adopt a Platoon.

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